(I'm aware that this belief is also not limited to those in relationships similar to mine.) Regardless of where our partner might be in their own transition, I've heard countless partners say that they want to affirm and support their trans* loved one exactly as they are, right here, right now. And that can often mean our partners become their own harshest critics.
Those of us who have weathered these seasonal, emotional storms have likely found that the truth lies somewhere in between two partners' equally biased opinions.
OK, so maybe my opinion is biased, but I dare you to find other partners of trans folks who don't agree with this point.
There is something special about loving someone who is so secure in who they are — someone who often faced down demons to affirm and proclaim their authentic identity.
We will fight for our loved ones — even when our partners wish we wouldn't.