By the way, whether you agree or not, I considered myself a NICE guy.I slept with very few people, I never said, “I love you” and I rarely kept a physical relationship going beyond a few weeks, if I felt it was headed nowhere. To a woman who woke up next to me after a first date and thought that we were “in a relationship”, I can see how she felt differently…. My friend, dating coach and matchmaker, Julie Ferman, talks about what a strange world we live in where we are more comfortable sleeping with a stranger than we are TALKING about what it means to sleep together. Better to hop in bed and hope we can handle the emotional consequences than it is to have a weird conversation about commitment, right? Until you GET this, until you truly EMBRACE the fact that we think with our penises and allow our brains to catch up weeks later, you’re ALWAYS going to be surprised at the “disconnect” between men’s words and their actions.So again, the only way you can tell if a guy is sincere is by WHAT KIND OF EFFORT HE MAKES FOR YOU AFTER YOU GO OUT.
Widowers are QUICK to rebound, to a point of being unseemly.
The guy’s been married for 30 years, his wife dies in June and he started dating online 2 months later?
You need to start using some qualifiers in your columns: MOST women.
I just read your book “Why He Disappeared” and really appreciated the great info.
I have not “lost” the guy I’ve been dating for the past 3 months, but I need to fix some of the mistakes I was starting to make. and 1 in Oct.) when we saw each other on Saturday and Sunday (but no sleepover) we have only seen each other once a week.