However, if you want to be in a happy, healthy relationship again, then you do need to overcome it.The four suggestions below helped me, and I think they'll also help you get past the things which are holding you back from a brighter future. After a few minutes of hyperventilating and walking her through my potential failed relationship, I told her I’d keep her posted on my decision. Listen to your heart but don’t be afraid to take the next step.
My first proper relationship ended when I found out that my girlfriend was cheating on me with one of my best mates; then afterwards--perhaps to get back at me for breaking up with her--it got back to me that she'd been spreading the (extremely false) rumor that I'd raped her. Combined with some other things that were taking place in my life, the experience plunged me into a crippling and near fatal depression, and my ability to trust another girl was destroyed.
Over the next few years, I brought my pistanthrophobia with me on every date I went on, and suffice it to say, there weren't a lot of second dates.
It's important that we start each relationship with a clean slate, and not let it be poisoned by our past.
In my case, my ex would constantly break promises, lie, say one thing then do something else, and continuously do things that she knew would bother me.
Like a good best friend should, she tried to keep me sane.