Dating is at best another extracurricular, number six or number seven down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.
I wrote a whole 280-page book about that, so that's a story for a different day.
At some point in your life, you got pegged as a smart person.
Left untreated, this condition can go on for decades.
I know people in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond who still haven't figured out how to create an intimate connection with another human being.
Unless you actually convey femininity as a woman or masculinity as a man, you're not going to attract a suitable companion of the opposite sex.