Sometimes I want to talk to someone who just gets it.– where affinity groups can be together without the presence of the oppressor – exist: so that tough conversations can be had with fewer guards up, so that you can communicate thousands of ideas in a single collective sigh, so that you can cry together with those who don’t just sympathize, but empathize.
Singles looking to mingle are increasingly crossing cultures to find their perfect partners. You may be from one culture and your potential honey is from another.
(Think swirled ice cream on a cone.) Mixed ethnicity families are on the rise in the UK (source: BBC), and according to The Guardian, nearly 1 in 10 people in England and Wales are in inter-ethnic relationships.
As a woman, I know that sometimes talking about gender with a male partner – even if he’s well versed in all things feminist – can feel exhausting.
Sometimes I don’t want to chat with someone who only has a theoretical understanding of gender oppression.
And it’s your job – both as the partner and a fellow white person – to They’re your loved ones, so you probably know what will work best for them, but in my experience, generally turning their mistake into a teachable moment will be more effective than just whining, “Moooom.