While Dutch women might like it when men do this, they do not expect it.Such actions aren't seen as an affront to ladies but rather as a sign that Dutch men see them as equals – although some might say this is the unfortunate downside of equality when dating a Dutch man. Part of this has to do with the prevalent bike culture – have you tried biking in high heels and a mini skirt, through the rain?It's unnerving approaching a group of Dutch men or Dutch women to strike up a conversation with someone you have your eye on – but such is the dating scene in the Netherlands.
Some report the Dutch avoid making ‘real' connections with foreigners, making it difficult to get past the first Dutch dating hurdle and settle down.
You might find it less common to 'label' a relationship or have a talk about the direction of your love affair, even after several months of meeting.
Try to be patient, relax and don't expect your Dutch man or woman to act exactly like people back home.
While expat forums can provide some helpful advice, their dating threads are often the setting for uninhibited (and often unrepresentative) venting: "Dutch women here are rude, arrogant and unfriendly." "The only thing Dutch men have really taken to heart is 'going Dutch'." Resist the temptation and look for more balanced advice elsewhere.
It also comes down to the Dutch laid-back attitude, which tends to extend to clothes (and makeup), so you may want to take it down a notch if you're used to getting very gussied up for a date.