So when you're trying to start conversations, remember that everything you do should move towards meeting in person and taking things offline. I physically met five of the girls I talked to on POF, and I lost count of how many numbers I got.
I actually got so good at conversing that I got to the root of why some girls don't want to meet up.
This is why the best openers start with a combination of showing the girl you read her profile and are interested in her and introducing yourself in a way that make the girl feel comfortable. The more words you say, the more likely you're going to say something stupid.
It's a little more than just trying to pick them up. It's a really easy message to pass up, and unless you're Brad Pitt, she's probably not going to respond. This approach, like the above, is not so bad, though you probably won't see much success with it. Instead, you'll know that she'd rather die by razorblades than in a fire. Like I mentioned above, women tend to ignore questions that start out with a physical compliment and you can safely assume that they'e already received dozens, if not hundreds, of similar messages. First of all, they focus on yourself and your own lack of confidence and they make her feel awkward because now she has to reassure you that it's okay. At worst, she'll also assume she's strange for trying online dating too. First messages that critique a woman's profile might seem cute, but they're just really annoying.
Below you'll also find some more approaches and examples both of what to do and what not to do. An opener like this shows that you read her profile and saw that she likes coffee. If you really want to use this approach, at least use an unusual greeting with proper grammar, like "Howdy" or "Oh hey there." Example: Hey! Just like in real life, it's a little boring to just intro your name and then ask them how they're doing. It's also easy to cut-and-paste this kind of message and when it's not even that interesting to start out with, it'll be easy for a girl to ignore. Similarly, don't ask women how long they've been doing online dating. No one wants to go on a date with someone who will be their judge for the entire evening.
Sure, most people know that women tend to get a lot of messages from men and that some of them are ridiculous. In some cases, you can tell a girl that you liked her profile and it will totally work for you.
That fact, however, has nothing to do with you and her, and really nothing to do with her. In others, it just makes it sound like she passed a test, and tests aren't fun.
I'm also going to give you some tips on engaging in conversation. 70% of girls who go on POF (Plenty of Fish) go on just to have a conversation.