And to be perfectly honest, people can be pretty damn shallow have.They tend to believe that they deserve a smoking hottie, a perfect 10 regardless of their own looks, wealth, lifestyle or personality.
Because sex is so much more easily attainable for women – or so the conventional wisdom goes – they have luxury of being able to define the standards which men must meet, wantonly cutting off men who are not rich, tall douchebags with square jaws and fast cars.
Men feel helpless; they feel that they are forced to leap through hoops in order to win women’s approval and hope that she will pick him against all odds. In fact, not only is the idea that women somehow control all the power in sex and dating not true, but it’s a case of people asking the wrong question.
The problem is that this falls under what’s known as the confirmation bias: the tendency to only believe evidence that validates an already existing belief. Before you start, let me forestall the inevitable “Great, so you don’t have to be hot, you just have to be powerful/rich/more talented than God”. They have passion in their life and know how to convey it. They can make women laugh, feel special without putting them on a pedestal and yet not come across as needy. Women are closer to true social equality than ever before: wages are growing closer to parity, women outnumber men in college attendance and are achieving leadership positions in corporations and government in ways that previous generations could only dream of.
There is far more to attraction than looks – though they help – or being in the rarified 1% of money, talent or fame. And yet men have to do all the work when it comes to courtship.
It stands to reason that since women have all of the power when it comes to dating, they get to pick and choose from men who get laid are alpha males with lantern jaws and six-pack abs.