When people are denied what they want (even a little), they tend to want it all the more!If the partner is not committed or invested in you, however, playing hard to get can backfire.To turn yourself into some sort of prize and see your value drop to zero once the prize is claimed? Why hasn't the study also investigated what happens next as a consequence of game playing? It seems like a poor advice but in real life it is not.
(Then you can play a little harder-to-get down the road.) Go to
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Other advice suggests we should be more direct and straightforward, improving trust and liking. I began to address this very topic in a previous article, where I reviewed research that showed playing hard to get does indeed work. Recent research has brought a bit more clarity to the question, finding that sometimes playing hard to get is a good way to build desire. What We Know Researchers Dai, Dong, and Jia (2014) investigated the question, "When does playing hard to get increase romantic attraction?
In general, being on the receiving end of someone else's aloof and uncertain signals does increase desire. " They theorized that such an aloof strategy may have unique effects on different emotions.
So, if this technique does not fit with your personality, then I suggest you check out some of my other articles.