Nicole is 30, a willowy brunette with curly hair who describes herself on Tinder as Dancey, smiley, lovey, tall. Since joining Tinder last summer, she has chatted with dozens of guys but only gone on two Tinder dates. Sometimes she’ll start Tindering while on the train and will get so distracted she’ll miss her stop.She finds she sometimes falls into a soothing swiping rhythm where she’s not really looking at the men, just calming herself with a repetitive pattern of left-right swipes.He wanted the app to catch on with the most difficult group of people—college students too young and socially active to need online dating, people who saw it as a stigmatized practice.
Until recently, hookup apps were straightforward but sleazy.
Then along came Tinder, the dating-hookup hybrid that made things simpler, sexier, and particularly lady-friendly.
Your matches accrue in a folder, and often that’s the end of the story. The swiping phase is as lulling in its eye-glazing repetition as a casino slot machine, the chatting phase ideal for idle, noncommittal flirting. (His tagline made her laugh.) They had one friend in common, and they both liked Louis C. (The third is Jonathan Badeen, the engineer who built the app.) Rad is the chief ecutive officer; Mateen is chief marketing officer.
In terms of popularity, Tinder is a massive and undeniable success. For Katherine, still wary from her bad encounter, Tinder offered another advantage. They are also best friends, share a resemblance to David Schwimmer, and have been known to show up for work in the same outfit. For people his age, the primary way to interface with the technical world was through a mobile device.
Some people, used to reading between the lines in such matters, simply assume casual sex. I ask how she makes that clear, and she says she does not respond to messages that arrive at 3 A. She has used the site both in New York, where she lives, and in the Bay Area, where she is from. When she signed on in the Bay, she felt a flood of recognition: These are my people! But how does she distinguish that from people in New York?