You Probably Want to "Have It All" and Are Not Willing to "Settle". I have had dates where for two hours, I was not asked a single question or had an opportunity to talk for more than a moment or two. They left not knowing if I had children (I do) or parents!(I did.) After decades of living, we all have a lot to convey, but it makes for a better date if listening is a mutual activity.5. This goes for both genders, but women over 50 seem to want to size guys up right away in terms of their long term relationship potential.I'm not just going to jump into bed." And that's a good point. Someone brilliant once said, "Men sleep with women to see if there could be a relationship.
Do you really want him to know why your boss upset you so much today or how much weight you want to lose this year?
Retain a bit of mystery and avoid sending him a friend request until you’ve got to know each other better. Pay attention to the introductions – We guys are extremely territorial (even though we may not know it) and once we’ve come to the conclusion that this is the woman we want, we’ll start saying things like “This is my girlfriend, Sarah”.
I got this text before a date (which I then declined to go on): "If you don't have a substantial retirement in place or big income, we will not be a match." Other dates have said they are only interested in rich men. And one actually put forth the idea I should write her monthly checks. But it also isn't 1870, and if there is mutual attraction, at this stage of our lives, waiting a long time -- whatever that may be -- seems equally foolish.
If money is hugely important, pre-screen your dates better.7. Just as men shouldn't talk about or expect sex too soon, women should appreciate that most of us -- male and female -- aren't on these dating sites solely for someone to hike with or take to the opera (some are, but not most.) When sex comes up, a frequent comment from women, is, "This isn't 1970. Yes, there are often wide differences between men and women in the emotional attachment created by sex.
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.